Practical Ways to Bring Enchantment into Your Life
By Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
THE ENCHANTED SELF teaches you how to access positive states of well being
again and again. These positive states are unique to you and often reflect
your interests, talents, and potential. I thought it would be un to finally
share with you some activities useful in helping you get in touch with your
1. Relax and let your mind drift backward in time. Give yourself permission
to drift back through your memory to a younger age. Let your intuition be
your guide in choosing an appropriate age. Once you have chosen an age,
imagine yourself in a room in one of the homes of your childhood. Look at
the furniture, the colors of the room. Can you smell anything, any aromas of
food cooking, or any other odors? Can you hear any noises, perhaps people
talking? Is the television on? What show might be on? Can you look out the
window from where you're sitting? What do you see?
Jot down all the positive thoughts and feelings that you associate with this
memory on a piece of paper. Then make a list of all the talents and positive
capacities you had as a child. Thank about how you could link your positive
traits from the past forward to your present life.
Don't get discouraged if you need to make changes in your present life.
Changes can be positive, and there is always a way that you can successfully
change, even if it is a little bit at a time.
2. Next, let's do an exercise geared to building your self-esteem, a
necessary attribute to your Enchanted Self. Think about five positive
statements that you can make about yourself. For example, you might say, "I
am a most courteous and helpful person," or "I am always there for others,
or "I can be trusted."
Later on today, write down your five positive remarks about yourself.
Put this piece of paper in your wallet or in your pocketbook. Read it to
yourself at least once a day, for a period of one week. After a week, give
yourself a mental hug, or some other form of congratulations, to emphasize
to yourself how great it is that you have these positive traits. We all need
practice in confirming what is good about ourselves.
Seeing yourself in a positive light is a critical step in living a life
Some of our best pathways for enchantment come from the hopes and dreams
that we had as children. Relax, and let your mind wander back to a time in
your life when you were eager and excited about life. For example, perhaps
you were a Brownie or a Cub Scout, and you imagined yourself becoming a Girl
or Boy Scout some day, winning every Scout badge possible. Or maybe, because
you like nature, you often imagined yourself climbing high in the trees. You
may never have actually done these things, yet now you can still remember
the good feelings that you had either actually doing, or thinking, about
Rather than holding on to the disappointment or anger that may have come
from unrealized dreams, think about three things that you can do as an adult
that could result in your having some of these same positive feelings.
For example, perhaps a course in rock-climbing might help you get back in
touch with the fearlessness you felt as a child when you imagined yourself
climbing tall trees. Or perhaps it is now time for you to sharpen your skill
at some sort of craft, and enter a competition. Or maybe its just time to
order a gourmet-cooking magazine, and to have the pleasure of looking at
someone else's recipes.
As adults, we don't always need to be a winner. It's enough just to enjoy a
hobby or an interest. One of the gifts of Enchantment is that you can make a
variety of decisions about yourself, sometime choosing to be highly
competitive, while at other times you may choose to be a spectator.
Whether you relax by blowing bubbles, or by wishing on a star, fishing, or
roller skating, the magical yet obtainable ingredients of Enchantment lie
within each of us, waiting for you to practice them an to apply them, again
and again. Give yourself permission to feel good again, by recognizing the
true strengths and value you have as a unique human being. Welcome to your
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein , originator of THE ENCHANTED
method of bringing delight and meaning into everyday living, invites you
to view her new line of ENCHANTED WOMAN products, downloadable e-books,
and free gifts at http://www.enchantedself.com.