Life, The Greatest Ride of All
Life is the greatest roller coaster ride we will ever take. The ups
and downs, the unexpected changes, the twists and turns, are all a part of
living. The roller coaster ride of life can be miserable and
uncomfortable or exciting and rewarding. Our states of mind and body
are key factors in how we handle these changes. The problems of life
do not go away magically. We have to consciously work on making our
lives more positive and joyful.
Once in an ENCHANTED SELF workshop, one woman related a story about her
Thanksgiving dinner. She had recently suffered a painful and unexpected
breakup with a boyfriend. Although she was experiencing grief, she had
a strong inner desire to reclaim her sense of self and move forward with her
It was interesting to hear her speak about the family meal. As she looked
around at her extended family seated at the table, she became filled with
love and felt the love reflected back towards her. It was then that she made
a conscious choice to stay focused in the moment, to remain in a loving
state and to share that love with those around her.
There were some inner struggles during the course of the evening because
Thanksgiving held poignant memories for her involving her ex-boyfriend.
When these memories surfaced, she deliberately chose to put them aside.
After the family gathering, she confidently exclaimed, "I won!"
Her conscious decision to remain in a positive state of being, coupled with
the feelings of love that she felt toward everyone, were the most critical
factors in staying focused in the moment. She had triumphed because
she did not succumb to feelings of depression and pity. Like Dorothy
in The Wizard of Oz when she clicked her heels and said, "there's no place
like home," she realized that the things she was searching for -- strength,
love and happiness--could be found in her "own backyard."
The support and love that comes from our family and friends, as well as the
inner strength we develop when we get to know and accept ourselves, was
We will always tussle with dark thoughts and the negative sides of our
personalities. Sometimes there will be unpleasant events in our lives,
but we can choose not to let these things invade our sense of self-dignity
and worth. When we make conscious choices about how we will respond to
difficult situations, we feel empowered. For that moment we are in
charge of our destiny. Nobody ever said that achieving positive states
of mind and body was easy, but then again nobody ever said it was hard.
It's a matter of focusing on the positive, and self-education.
Positive memory retrieval is the tool that enhances our ENCHANTED SELF
journey. Reaching a positive state of inner and outer harmony is the
essence of THE ENCHANTED SELF. One way of reaching this state is to
give love and support to our selves and to others. Let's make this
year a year of growth, peace, harmony and shared optimism.
Exercise: Heightening Our Experience of Pleasure
This exercise is designed not only to help you remember and validate
positive aspects of your past, but to emphasize the need to stay more
attentive to positive happenings in the present that may precipitate
Were there moments in your childhood when you felt particularly happy?
These moments can be from any age -- from your earliest memories through
young adulthood. When you find a golden memory, savor it. See
yourself at that age and experiment with letting different senses reconnect
to that happy time.
- What was going on at that moment?
- What were you feeling inside?
- How did your body feel?
- Were there any aromas?
- How did things look around you?
- How were you acting?
- What was the weather like?
- What was the scenery like?
- Were you with anyone?
- What was it like to be with that person?
Take time to really enjoy this happy memory. Now scan your memory
bank and the most recent past to see if you can think of one thing that you
enjoyed doing in the last week. Give yourself permission to relive
through your memory that pleasant time. Again, use all of your senses
to reconnect you with that wonderful experience.
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein , originator of THE ENCHANTED
SELF®, a method of bringing delight and meaning into everyday living,
invites you to view her new line of ENCHANTED WOMAN products, downloadable
e-books, and free gifts at http://www.enchantedself.com.
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