Five Fast Ways to Be More Romantic...Right Now
By Laura Snyder
Who has time for romance, we wonder, as we rush from work to errands to
bed with nary a free minute to light the requisite candles or whip up a
While occasionally having the trappings of time-intensive romance never
hurt, there are plenty of other things you easily fit in your too-busy
schedule that will keep you and your honey close.
Focus Your Attention
Romance is no time for multi-tasking. When you want to make time for your
partner, really make time for your partner. Even if you're only taking a
minute to kiss your sweetie good-bye, make that minute count by giving them
your full attention, direct eye contact, and a full 60 second of smoochin'.
Remember the phrase "I love you" can be said in less than five seconds, and
paired with a longing gaze, is impossible to resist.
Snare a Surprise
Gifts don't have to be grand gestures to be romantic (though, "honey, I
bought you a new car" does have a nice ring to it). Little things like
picking up her favorite flavor of ice cream, or taping his favorite
television show when he's working late are the real stuff of romance.
Physical contact is an immediate reminder of our love for someone. Though
you might not have time for long hours of lovemaking, you can still have a
little pre-breakfast groping, mid-afternoon hand holding, or evening
backrubs. When you pass your partner - even when it's just to reach past him
or her for the car keys - reach out and grant a friendly rub.
Pump Up Pride
Who doesn't love feeling valued and appreciated? In long term
relationships in particularly, it's easy to tell our partners what drives us
crazy and often harder to remember to praise them for the things we love.
Grant Sex Object Status
She sees him clipping his toenails. He's seen her with mustache bleach
on. The closeness many long-term couples share is not the stuff romance is
made of. Remember when you used to lust after this person? Now, do you
remember why? Break out those rusty flirting skills you employed to win this
person over, and treat them like the lust object they really are.
Get the lips actively involved - they're not just
barriers for saliva. Lips are just as fun as tongues.
Make the kiss very slow yet passionate. Men -
sweep the woman off her feet. We love it!
Full-Contact Kissing |
Kissing by itself is great but you need to let the other
person know he/she is kissing a person - touch their hair, hands, neck,
thigh, anything that is allowed and decent.
Foods To Give You That Sexy Feeling
By Cynthia Yoder
I'm a connoisseur of magical foods - especially love potions. After
eating, exercising and talking my way out of depression (see my forthcoming
memoir Crazy Quilt: Pieces of a Mennonite Life), I see the special powers of
the palette. Here are foods that two top nutrition gurus recommended to whet
your appetite for more than dinner. Bon appetite!
1. Eat like a gerbil. "Many nuts and seeds like sunflower, sesame,
poppy and pumpkin seeds are rich sources of Essential Fatty Acids (EFA's),
which help sex hormone production," says Dr. Linda Page, N.D., Ph.D., author
of Healthy Healing: A Guide For Self-Healing for Everyone. The seeds are
also good sources of zinc, so they can enhance your ability to catch your
lover's pheromone scent - the key scent for animal attraction. Sunflower
seeds also contain a substance called chlorogenic acid, which helps
stimulate sexual appetite in men and women.
2. Eat like the Queen Bee. This is one of my favorites - royal jelly
in honey. Royal jelly is the food that worker bees feed to their queen bee,
and it's rich in B-complex and other nutrients to stimulate sexual function.
It's pricey, but how much is it worth to you to be Queen Bee? And speaking
of "B's," B-12, along with Vitamin A, strengthen the reproductive system,
says Dr. Carolyn Dean, M.D., author of The Miracle of Magnesium. And we all
know that reproduction exists for the purpose of sex!
3. Eat like Pop-eye. Dark green leafy vegetables like spinach, kale,
collards and others contain lots of magnesium and vitamin B that are
absolute musts for sexual energy. They help regulate your body's stress
responses. And we all know stress has to strip off with the undies if
there's going to be any action! "When you're under extreme stress, your body
doesn't want to procreate [read: copulate]," says Dr. Dean.
4. Imbibe the Oil of the Gods. Flax seed oil is another personal
favorite. Like other seeds, flax seed gives your body Essential Fatty Acids-
and it's available in oil so it's easy to "slip it in" every day. I drink
Barlean's Flax Oil with a protein shake every morning. It's also good as a
dressing -- shake it up with a little lemon juice and balsamic vinegar, and
pour it over a spinach salad for a powerhouse lunch.
Build these foods into your every-day diet, and give them time to work -
two weeks at least! And forget things like sugar that create a crash and
burn cycle in your body that steals your energy away. If you need to sweeten
your tea, grab a squeeze bottle of royal jelly in honey and pour! Oh yes,
and don't forget to exercise - it's important for circulation in the places
where it counts.